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'My husband lasted 6 weeks as a stay at home dad'

FROM the outside, being a stay at home mum looks like a breeze.

You get to hang out with the kids all day, get things done around the house, head out for coffee with friends, go to the gym while the kids play in the crèche… easy.

Well, that's what some might think…

Woodford mum of two Katie Dykes said she solved that misunderstanding in her household quick smart.

"My husband at the time and I had a four-year-old and a six-week-old," she said.

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"We were both loving being parents, but he had the 'Dad' role and worked all day and I was at home all day with the kids.

"He hated that I got to spend so much time with the kids when he didn't and I was jealous that he got to have adult conversations at work all day - so we swapped.

"I thought, 'finally, I am a big person again', but within a few of weeks he realised that the kids don't stop screaming and being at home did not mean having home time to yourself - at all."

Her then hubby lasted just six weeks before he begged and pleaded to go back to work. And a mutual understanding was born.

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 "I would come home from 16 hour days and dinner wasn't cooked and I would be annoyed, but then I realised that's how he felt when he came home from work and I had been busy running around after the kids all day," she said.

Katie said while she loved being back at work, she missed being at home with the kids, and hubby wanted a slice of both worlds too.

"I realised I needed to be at work and having that adult interaction but I wanted both, so found that middle ground," she said.

"He found balance as well and made more time for the kids while working."

Both parents cut back their working hours and devised a plan to share their time between family and work. 

Her advice for other couples out there in a similar situation? Give this experiment a go.

"I would tell people to put themselves in their partner's shoes and see where they are coming from," Katie said. 

"Maybe doing a swap experiment like we did is an option and I would recommend it if you are struggling."  

 

Miss last week's episode on kids' health and nutrition? WATCH IT HERE.

Check out our week two episode on 'smack or no smack' HERE.

And out week one episode on technology HERE. 

Topics:  heymumma heymummawork parenting



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