Coming home with a new baby means a world of changes

Breast Milk Bar founder Yvette Wensley (centre) says joining a mothers group is a great way to share knowledge and experiences.
Breast Milk Bar founder Yvette Wensley (centre) says joining a mothers group is a great way to share knowledge and experiences. Lou O'Brien

COMING home from the hospital to a new 24-hour job can become an overwhelming experience for new mums.

Breast Milk Bar founder Yvette Wensley has been working as a midwife and lactation consultant for more than a decade and regularly sees the signs of tired and stressed mums who channel all of their energy into their new baby without leaving anything for themselves or their partners.

The mother of three created the Breast Milk Bar Facebook group to send mums little gems of knowledge and support throughout the day and has started a mothers' support group to allow new mums to share their experiences and seek out reassurance that they are not alone.

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Mrs Wensley said finding that connection could open up a new world for parents, who can feel isolated without regular adult interaction.

"These groups are places where no question is silly and it can take the load off feeling like you have to be a super mum.

"There is that need for women to be around women as we don't have a tribe raising our families any more," she said.

"Even if mums aren't comfortable getting out, they can ask their partners to ring them during the day just to check in with them and give them a chance to have some adult conversation."

With so much on the ever-growing to-do list, it is vital for mums to remember to feed their bodies and get adequate sleep.

With sleep deprivation comes frayed tempers and often arguments between partners, so it is important not to let the new bundle come between the relationship that created them in the first place.

Mrs Wensley said partners needed to have extra tolerance towards each other in what is a highly stressful time.

Taking naps while baby is sleeping is an easy way to ensure you get rest.

"It is important to lower your standards when it comes to keeping a tidy household, you need your time to sleep," she said.

"With the hormones still circulating in the first six weeks after birth, it can feel like the world is crumbling around you, but you can get your partner or family to help out with some dishes or cleaning or even to bring a meal with them when they come over to pay a visit."

Preparing a "mummy lunch box" in the morning can ensure there is a ready-made supply of snacks available during the day.



  • Communicate with your partner
  • Don't be afraid to ask friends, relatives and health professionals for help
  • Eat healthy snacks and hearty meals
  • Join a mothers' group
  • Set aside 10 minutes a day just for you

Topics:  baby motherhood parenthood parenting

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