Support makes finding your path easier
TO CELEBRATE 20 years together and 10 years married, my husband and I took a couple of days out in a special place for some quiet time together.
So I'm writing this sitting outdoors in a beautiful location with the sound of birds, the breeze through the trees and a gently running creek in the background. And it was while we were on our walk this morning that I had the idea for this article and it's the location that inspired me.
You see walking alongside the creek helped me to recognise so many things that life and relationships present us and the environment provided the metaphor.
Those that know my husband would describe him as an adventurer in all things and, while I consider myself adventurous, Nick has a courageous, enthusiastic love of it. I knew that from the beginning when I met him on top of Uluru at sunrise when he was training tour guides in the Red Centre and we have shared many adventures since.
Today, as I watched Nick demonstrating his usual, graceful rock-hopping like a sure-footed mountain lion and compared it to my more hesitant, cautious style it dawned on me how this simple act summed up an individual's unique approach to life.
I am the one who looks for details, carefully choosing the next couple of rocks before looking for those beyond; preferably those without moss, with a flatter surface, dry and with an easily achievable distance between them.
Nick looks at the big picture and has already chosen his path before he takes his first confident and committed steps. So I generally follow his route yet some days I may feel more intrepid and take a different path or push myself to take a slightly greater leap.
So I see the creek as a metaphor for life and each person negotiates it differently. Our ability to find our own path as we navigate large boulders, smaller rocks, gravel, shifting sand, slow moving shallows and fast moving deeper channels will reflect our approach to life and the choices we make.
We may choose to be like the water and flow around the obstacles or just jump from one to the other. We may choose to cross the shallows or dive into the deep. Some choices require us to take a different path and depend on trust and courage.
One thing's for sure, like rock hopping, negotiating life's challenges can be made easier when someone is there to give us support, encouragement, a helping hand and guide us to the path of least resistance.
Rowena Hardy is a facilitator, performance coach and partner of Minds Aligned: http://www.mindsaligned.com.au.